Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Monday, February 14, 2011

Love

"Of all the misconceptions about love the most powerful and pervasive is the belief that falling in love is love.
In reality, falling in love requires minimal effort and little willpower,
whereas being in love involves much work and a steadfast commitment to the comfort and well-being of one's companion.
Love is an act of will, namely, both an intention and an action.
Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.


Real love enlarges the soul. It helps us to bite our tongue when it would be easy to say hurtful words.
It ...gives us an understanding heart that is filled with compassion for another.
It enables us to be more patient with other's imperfections and acknowledge our own.
And it means that we stay loyal and true when it would be easy or enticing to find someone else to love.


The miracle of real love is that those who choose to love blossom under the sunshine of trust and appreciation they even become more lovable. "

~Dr. M Scott Peck


I LOVE YOU!

and I would still choose you!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

To Landon,

As I'm writing this, your birthday was 39 days ago (September 19), but as you may remember we were at Grandma and Grandpa's for your birthday, and there is NO Internet access, so I couldn't get to my blog. We had just finished having a fun week in Oklahoma and we still had several days left of fun in Kansas.


Now your brothers birthday is almost here and I have to write to/about you before I can write for him.




I can't believe that you have been my son for 8 years! It's been wonderful to see how you are growing, and how God is molding you.


Your heart is so big! I love that your heart goes out in sympathy to your brothers and especially to Kaylie when they are hurt or crying. I've watched you several times go and check out why Kaylie was upset and then you do anything you can to help her so she will be better, even come and "negotiate" with mom or dad.




I see your tender heart and your desire to please. Words and tones can cut you right to the heart and you would rather go without than to think someone is angry with you. This can be good and it can be bad, as it is said, many times our strongest strengths are also our greatest weaknesses. May your heart always stay tender toward the Lord and may your desire to please, be for Christ and not for man.


You stump me with your lack of attachment to things. You get gifts, you buy toys, even very expensive things, and within a day or two, you would trade it (if we would let you), you let anyone play with it, and you really don't care what happens to it. It's not a bad thing at all, because this world and all things in it are temporary, and the looser we hang on to things, the easier life will be. But what do you get a boy who has nothing specific he really wants or collects?


You amaze me at the comments that come out of your mouth. They can be so funny or they can be so serious, causing your daddy and I to really think before we answer.


There are so many wonderful things about you, and I can't share them all here and I can't even think of them all as I'm sitting here typing. But I know I love you! I love your hugs. I love your laugh. I love that you are so funny. I love your smile where you're missing those two front teeth, it just makes me want to eat you! Even the angels love you, because God sent you with an angel's kiss.


May you grow in Christ, and become a man whose heart is soft for the Lord, yet a warrior for His kingdom.


I LOVE YOU!!!
xoxoxo
Your Momma


Monday, October 18, 2010

Promises to Me

All of my boys took this promise today, with their left hands over their hearts and their right hands in the air:




I, {Preston, Tanner, Landon}, promise to always
hug, kiss, and love on my mama,
no matter how big or how old I get.
No matter whether I'm married,
or whether I'm a daddy,
I will always
hug, kiss, and love on my mama.
I make this promise.
Amen!


It was done individually and of their own free will.
It started with Preston when we were standing in the kitchen and
I was hugging him and he was hugging back.
I asked if he promised to always do this,
and he said "Yes".
So I made up this promise,
knowing that he is soon to enter into those teen years.
(I'm sure there are already boys his age who already won't love on their mama's.)
After that went so well I moved to the next and then to the next.



This is recorded here for future references...
and believe me that they will be reminded of it someday!

Friday, August 20, 2010

16 Years

Today it has been 16 years since saying "I Do".

The more time passes the more I am appreciating Jeff and the man he is.
I LOVE that he is so in love with Christ that he desires to be in the center of His will.
I LOVE that he takes extra steps to protect our marriage.
I LOVE that he says I'm beautiful, no matter what I look like at the time.
I LOVE that he loves our babies.

I am seeing more and more marriages breaking up, friends, acquaintances, let alone all those I don't know.
Because someone is wanting the "grass that is greener" on the other side.
And the truly sad thing...these are people who carrying the name Christ.
A pastor.
A youth pastor's wife.
A Sunday school teacher.
People who sit in church on Sunday mornings.

Just thinking about it, gets me down.
I realize that "It can happen to anyone."
What is keeping my marriage anymore protected then these other marriages.

I have to fall back on this...
As long as Jeff and I keep Christ the center of our lives, we will be fine.
As long as we are stilling willing to say, "Whatever it takes God, I'll do it.", we will be fine.

I am so thankful that I have a husband who truly has a head over him, which is Christ.
That he tries his hardest to love me as Christ loves the church.
Yea, he's not perfect and neither am I... so that can still lead into some pretty intense "discussions".
But we love each other.
The years will only get better!



This past Wednesday Jeff had his wisdom teeth extracted.

So he is on pain meds, not feeling the best.

His diet consists of soft foods, ie noodles, oatmeal, yogurt, icecream, scrambled eggs, pancakes.

And his cheeks are so big it's been very hard for me to resist squeezing them.

Everytime I look at his face and see these little chipmunk cheeks, or as Jeff says a version of elephant man,
I just want to reach up and pinch them!

So there's really been no celebration today.

But I love him, oh how I love him!

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Happy Birthday Kaylie Joy!

Today my baby is SIX years old.

How did time fly by so fast.


As she is growing, we are seeing her personality more and more.


She loves to sing.

She loves dresses.

She loves to color.

She loves pink and purple.
She loves girl time.
She loves "her boys".
She loves her daddy.
She loves me.


She LOVES dogs!
If there is a dog in the vicinity she will make it a point to go up to the owner,
no matter who it may be,
to say "I like your dog."


I keep having the conversation about strangers to her but her philosophy is,
If they have a dog, they're good people.

She has no qualms about stepping into the middle of dogs playing to split them up.
No matter that they each weight 2-3 times as much as she does.

She is also loving horses.

Thankfully we don't see horses every time we go to the park,

otherwise she would be running up to the people saying,

"I like your horse."


But she plays with horses,

buys horses,

checks out horse books,

and sometimes she IS a horse.


She seems to have no fear. (Except for spiders and at bedtime.)
She knows no stranger. (Just like her daddy.)
She can play, fight and get dirty with the best of them.
She makes "friends" every where we go,
it doesn't matter that she doesn't know their name,
that's not important to her,

they are her friend!

She is funny!

She makes me smile.

She is a JOY!



Saturday, July 17, 2010

To Mom:


It's your BIRTHDAY!




I just wanted to wish you a
Happy Birthday!
I hope you have a wonderful, blessed year!

Thank you for all you have sacrificed for me, and for loving me.

You are the BEST mom ever
and I LOVE you!!!


(The picture had to of been taken in 1947,
it is my Grandpa and Grandma, Uncle Charles and my mom.)

Monday, January 11, 2010

9 Years Old!


Happy 9th Birthday Tanner!


When Tanner woke up this morning he was already nine years! He was born at 1:45 am CST. He is my only baby who wakes up to be an official new age.


His birthday has ended up being celebrated all weekend, which I'll share about that later.


Right now I just want to say to my 2nd born, who was 7lb 13oz, what I love about him.

Tanner, I love...
1. ...that you are so compassionate to those who are hurting.
2. ...how you keep an eye on your sister and you make sure she's not left behind.
3. ...to hear you sing back answers to me.
4. ...to watch you read and to see you "picturing" the story in your mind.
5. ...your dance moves! They make me smile!
6. ...knowing that you've chosen to follow Christ.
7. ...that you will try to find the good, even when you're not "feeling" it.
8. ...when you snuggle up next to me on the couch, whether doing 'school' or watching a movie.
9. ...that I'm your mommy, and I can't wait to see what God's plan and purpose is for your life!

Sunday, January 10, 2010

A Love Note (Email)

15 Things I Love About You Julie!


1. You have stuck with me & been faithful to me through thick & thin - you really meant "until death do us part," when you said it 15 years ago!

2. You have encouraged & lifted me up many times when other people tore me down.

3. You have, through your example, spurred me on many times to go deeper in my walk with Jesus & read the Bible more.

4. You have forgiven me for a lifetime of stupid things I've done & continue to forgive me.

5. You have prayed for me consistently & believed in God's ability to work through me to accomplish the vision He gave me to do church in a different way to reach people who would typically never step foot in church.

6. You sought God until you saw, understood, & shared the vision God had shown me & then you became the perfect help-mate in keeping me true to that vision & God's calling, to not be side-tracked.

7. You are an amazing mother & work very hard at protecting our kids, & pointing & leading them down paths of righteousness, & home-schooling them to help instill God’s truths into their lives.

8. You’ve taught me to give to others & be less stingy.

9. You’ve taught me to seek God's approval & direction, not man's.

10. You’ve kept me from making a number of stupid decisions by sharing your wisdom & discernment & being a sounding board for me.

11. You’ve helped me learn how to be a better husband & dad & haven’t allowed me to be a total failure at it.

12. You put "fun" into my life & have helped me to overcome my "work-a-holic" tendencies & to enjoy you & the kids & family & a more balanced life.

13. You really care about hurting people & alone underdogs & you love to encourage them.

14. You have been a tremendous life partner in just sharing God's life for us together & I'd never want to go through life without you.

15. You are the best back-scratcher in the world!


Thank You! I love you Julie! Thank you for being my life-mate until death do us part!

Monday, November 16, 2009

Happy Birthday Jeff



If I haven't told you lately that you are a good man-
You are.


If I haven't told you lately that I love you-
I do.


Happy Birthday!


Love,
Me

Thursday, November 5, 2009

For the Love of Homeschool

After my last post, which you can read here, I wanted to write down why I love to homeschool. (These are in no particular order.)

I LoVe Homeschooling because...


  • It's what God has called us to do.
  • I get to spend lots of time with my kids.
  • I get to see the "ah-ha" moments when they get things.
  • I can sleep until 7:30 or later if I'm tired.
  • We can stay in our jammies all day if we want.
  • I get to cuddle and kiss my kids as they work.
  • I know that they are learning the truth.
  • I have the most influence on my kids, not a teacher, babysitter or friends, because most of their time is spent with me.
  • My kids are friends. (Most of the time.)
  • We are usually done by lunch.
  • We still get "nap" times!
  • We can do "school" at a park, museum, zoo, or anywhere else we want to.
  • We can go on "vacation" anytime we want and stay as long as we want.
  • It's very flexible all around.
  • I love my kids more than any instructor/teacher ever could.
  • Their education can be "custom fit" to their needs, not to what the government says is "standard".
  • I get to closely watch what kind of "thoughts" via music, TV, 'playground' talk is inputted into their minds.
  • The closeness it brings to our family.
  • Their character and who they are becoming in Christ is more important then their academics.
  • We can sit and eat three meals together as a family. (Although at breakfast, I'm usually missing.)
  • The kids get daily devotions with their daddy at breakfast.
  • We're investing in the most important relationships on this earth.
  • I taught them to read.
  • They are learning to be "social" with all age groups, not just their peers.
  • I get to experience hugs and "I love you" 's throughout the whole day.
  • There's no evening "homework".
  • I am becoming more dependent on Christ.
  • I am learning more about the grace of God and how it's our only hope.

I'm sure there are many reasons that I'm missing but that's a good start.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

15 Years Of Love

I interrupt this 'summer catch-up' to bring you this....

Today is the day that Jeff and I celebrate 15 years of marriage.

Here are 15 things I love about Jeff, in no particular order~

1. He loves Christ and is not afraid to show it.
2. He loves me and is not afraid to show it. :o)
3. He is a hands-on daddy.
4. He continues to strive to be the best he can be and to make changes when need be.
5. He has helped me to not be so introverted.
6. We can go into any setting and he can make things more comfortable because he can talk to ANYONE!
7. He's a jack-of-all-trades...car mechanic, plumber, carpenter, lawn care, etc
8. He supports me in the things I do.
9. He teaches the kids for me on his day off.
10. He can give great back rubs.
11. He likes the same movies I do and he lets me pick them out.
12. He's an example to my kids on how to be a fully devoted follower of Christ.
13. He loves his enemies.
14. He cleans up after sick kids.
15. He does the dishes for me...in my opinion...the worst household chore EVER!

Jeff,

One thing that I have become more aware of is that there are so many people out there where the word "commitment" doesn't mean much to them. People's own selfish desires become their focus and they don't look at those they are hurting around them. So my prayer for us, is that we always stay Christ centered on all that we do. Because we are committed to Christ we are committed to each other even through the good, the bad and the ugly. There is a security that comes in this kind of marriage for each of us and for our children. May we continue to strive, with Christ's help, to provide a peaceful, secure home for our family.

It's been great to walk with you down the road of the Father's plan for us. To be able to give up what's comfortable, to do "whatever it takes" to follow the call that's been placed on our lives. We've been blessed, and I pray that we can be an example to others so they may desire to become closer to the Father. Thank you for loving Christ first and loving me through these past 15 years. May things only get better! I love you!!!

Love,
Your Smokin' Hot Wife ;o)

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Completely His: Ch. 2

Chapter 2 "Glimpses of a Loving God"



Just the other night in our life group, a question came up about how do you think God feels when he sees churches or Christians, fighting against each other. There were answers like, "It breaks His heart." "He probably gets angry. Thinking something like, why can't they just get along." and there were other opinions discussed, but many seemed to carry the overtone of God's anger and frustration with us. Maybe he does go through those feelings, but I tried to share that He knows how we are made and that we are but dust, so His patience with us has to be so much more then we are when we are dealing with our own children.


I share this because toward the beginning of this chapter, there was something Shannon said that brought me back to this conversation. She shares, "God's nature isn't always what it seems either. Before the car accident I saw God as a heavenly kill-joy...an angry disciplinarian...a disinterested, distant being who was exasperated by my failed attempts at getting my spiritual act together. Had I known that God's nature is so merciful, so gracious, so patient, kind, and loving...", she then goes on to say we need to get a glimpse of God's true nature, "He can't do wrong by you.... It's not that He won't. He can't....You can't do anything good enough to make Him love you any more than He already does, nor can you do anything bad enough to make Him love you any less. God is unchangeable, forever committed to His love relationship with you." (pg 14) Oh how I want us all to get this. I want my neighbors who are just babes in Christ to learn this early in their Christian walk.

We can see glimpses of God in nature. "Why did God craft such a wonderful world for us to live in?" Think through this for a second and come up with why you think so. Could it be as she believes that "it is all part of His plan to woo us into recognizing what a masterful artist He truly is and that He paints these masterpieces especially for us." (pg 17)

"Imagine something you consider your favorite (your favorite animal, your favorite season, your favorite color...), and realize it is a glorious gift from a God who knows your tastes better than you know them yourself." (pg 17) I have to say that I've never really given much thought to things this way. I've never been enthralled with nature and creation like some are, such as Jeff. Yes, I comment on a beautiful sunset, and beautiful scenery. I love the thunderstorms we've been having. It brings a sense of comfort and warm memories of my childhood (even though I didn't enjoy them so much at the time), to see the lightening, to hear the thunder, to hear the steady rhythm of the rain falling, to smell the freshness the rain brings. But I've never thought of them as God knowing me so well that He gives these as gifts, that He is wooing me.

We can also see glimpses of God in human nature, for we are made in God's image (see Genesis 1:26). Shannon gives an example of how when we have romantic feelings we have physiological responses, such as butterflies in our stomach, feeling giddy, our heart skipping a beat. That is a glimpse of how God feels when we, as humans, turn our attentions towards Him, in our prayers, in our worship, in our lives.

"One of the clearest glimpses of God comes from reading the love letter He wrote us... Sometimes we are lulled into thinking that it's really not that important to read God's Word, as if it simply contains historical information that doesn't apply to us today." If your husband or boyfriend (or wife or girlfriend) wrote a love letter, how eager would you be to open it, read it, pour over it? "Remember that the Bible is God's love letter to you, written straight from His heart in order to touch yours." (pg 21) Have you forgotten and lost sight of this? I have.

In His Love Letter, we can see glimpses of him in the Old Testament and in the New Testament. As Shannon shares of relating to Abram (later known as Abraham) I could relate right along with her. "God required something of Abram first--an act of obedience and trust. He called Abram to move to an entirely new and completely unfamiliar land, which required an enormous leap of faith for Abram and his entire household." (pg 25) Helllloooo! Colorado. New Hope. To use her words, yet make it personal to me, "Had we not been willing, as Abram was, to obediently venture away from our Kansas roots, we would have never discovered this "promised land" that we call New Hope." (pg 26)

Have you been called out of you comfort zone? One day you might be. "Regardless of what kind of change God asks of you, and no matter how difficult what He asks may seem, obedience to His voice will always result in blessing in the long run. that's just the kind of God we serve. He wants to give us marvelous things and experiences that we perhaps never dreamed of, but first we have to let go of our own little world and begin to venture out into His." (pg 27)

To close out this chapter, she asks some questions that I plan to apply in my Bible reading. This will allow us to see glimpses of Him throughout His Word.

  1. As you read the Bible, are you inviting Him to help you identify with the character written about in the Scriptures?
  2. Are you looking to see how God has wooed and pursued humanity into a love relationship with Him? (pg 28)

"While God is eager to reveal these treasures to us, we must open our Bibles to recognize them." (pg 29)

I hope you are getting something out of what I'm learning. Maybe you would want to go pick up the book for yourself. (I ordered mine off of Amazon.com) You could read this with me, we could chat about what we are learning! I would love to hear how God speaks to you and how he is wooing you.

Next week will be chapters 3 & 4


NOTE: the blue is quotes from the book, and the bold is my emphasis

Friday, June 12, 2009

Completely His: Ch. 1

I believe I shared awhile back, that since my women's Bible study ended for the summer, that my discussion group was going to go ahead and meet and go through a book. Last Friday was our first "meeting", but this was the first week of discussion.


We are going through this book.





I kind of just "stumbled" across this book. We were all to look for books that we might be interested in. I saw this at christianbook.com. I'm a little embarrassed to say that I kind of got her mixed up with Stasi Eldredge. When I realized I messed up, was when I was trying to pick up every one's book at the Christian book store. I really prayed and hoped that it wouldn't be a book that we all hated and that we wouldn't struggle to get through it.


We were to read the first two chapters. I loved it! and so did all the other "girls"! When I speak of the "girls" I am speaking of the six other ladies I meet with. My co-leader of the discussion group is close to 50. She has two grown children and has been divorced for 15 years. We have a great-grandmother in our group who is in her 70's, she still works as a real-estate broker and she ballroom dances several nights a week. There is also a grandmother who is just turning 60 who moved here from Alaska. We then have two mommies who just moved to the area in the past year and they knew no one. One of these mommies is in her mid-40's and she has two grown children and a 4 year old...yep, she was blessed with a very unexpected surprise! The other mommy is in her 20's, and right now she only has a 3 year old. The last, but certainly not the least, is a mother of five, who also homeschools her children. She is in her early to mid-30's. That gives you an idea of the group I meet with. We are all so different, but yet we have Christ in common.


I've decided that I'm going to share what I'm learning in this book with you!


Chapter 1 "My "Burning Bush" Experience


In this first chapter, Shannon shares about a tragic experience that happened to her, but yet turned her life around. As a junior in high school, she hit a lady with her car and killed her. This lady's husband and family forgave her, showed grace on her, and passed on his wife's "legacy of being a godly woman on to [her]" (pg 5), and continues to be in her life. She "gradually went from feeling "to blame" to feeling "chosen," chosen to carry the mantle of being a godly woman who loves Jesus beyond measure." She goes on to share "I wanted to be completely His, not just with my lips, but with my life. However, like most Christians, I've had to learn to love like that. It wasn't something that came naturally or even supernaturally overnight. It's been a long process that continues to this day, a process I'd like to walk you through in the coming chapters of this book." (pg 7) That's what we're in for!


In this first chapter, I really related to what she said. I've thought back to the different things I've gone through, the lessons I've learned and the decisions I've made. I don't know how organized this will be but I'm just going to share what really stuck out to me.


These are lessons the story of Moses can teach us.

"First, He doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called. It was okay that I didn't feel capable, as long as I knew He was capable of giving me what I needed to be obedient. Second, our fears do not change God's plans, but understanding God's plans can change our fears. My insecurities gradually disappeared, as I understood my ordained part in God's bigger plan. Third, accomplishing great things for God doesn't require great talent, only great faith in Him. As I have trusted God to equip me, to show me His plans, and to replace my fears with faith, I've discovered there's no greater, more euphoric feeling than knowing that the God of the universe is working in you, through you, even in spite of you when necessary." (pg 8-9) The bold is my emphasis.


Have you learned any of those lessons? I have all three of them, yes, sometimes I have to be reminded, but I've put them into practice. I've had that "euphoric feeling".


The car accident was Shannon's "burning bush" experience with God, and God revealed to her His desires for her life in the years that followed. When I think of a "burning bush" experience in my own life, I actually think of two different things. The period of time in my life when I was dealing with my health (thyroid and all that followed), and the things we went through at our past church, but as she said, "He used that season to show me a side of Himself that I needed to see in order to more fully understand His immeasurable love..." (pg 9)


"...I've come to realize I'll never be satisfied with the kind of Christianity that far too many people settle for. I don't want to be an "I'll do the minimum to get into heaven" kind of Christian. I don't want to be a half-baked, half-hearted follower who submits to the Lord only when it's easy or when there's something in it for me." (pg 9) Those are my feelings, how can I say it any better then her? What kind of Christian are you? Have you had your own unique glimpse of God's character? Or a time when God's presence or calling was undeniable?


To close out this chapter and of what really spoke to me, is this quote, "...He [God] wants you to allow Him to prove Himself as the magnificent lover, protector, and provider He truly is. Allow yourself to be courted by the Creator, so you can grasp these truths and come to understand His rock-solid, unchangeable, unwavering love for each and every one of us." (pg 10)



NOTE- the blue is quotes from the book. The bold is my emphasis.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

The Kids Say...

This is something going around on Facebook. You ask your kids these questions and you record their answers. I thought it would be good to "document" it on my blog.



Ask your kids the following questions, you'll be surprised at what answers you get.

Kaylie 4 1/2, Landon 6, Tanner 8, Preston 10


1. What is something mom always says to you?
~you're my pretty girl
~I love you
~It's school time.
~Say yes mom, and do it right away
2. What makes mom happy?

~me
~us kids, dad
~that you get to do something you really want to do
~that I love you
3. What makes mom sad?

~I cut my hair
~us doing bad things
~if you have to pay a bill
~you're not usually sad...when dad's not home for supper
4. How does your mom make you laugh?

~tickle
~tickling
~tickling me
~by tickling me
5. What was your mom like as a child?

~...she ran and got my childhood care bear
~you were like your mom and dad
~you would like to draw
~you had to go to the bathroom before school, the pencil sharpener, the waste basket, to everything (see here)
6. How old is your mom?
~6, 8, 9, 10, 11
~40! WHAT!
~34
~34
7. How tall is your mom?

~as tall as a mountain
~5 feet
~4 feet
~5 feet 2
8. What is her favorite thing to do?

~I don't know
~hugging us kids
~spend time with us and dad
~going to the bathroom to talk on the phone...then he said praise God
9. What does your mom do when you're not around?

~on the computer
~do your work
~you call us
~read your books
10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?

~as a care bear
~being a mom, because you love your kids and your husband
~for money
~because you're a great mom
11. What is your mom really good at?

~drawing crafts, setting up stuff, teaching, spanking
~cooking
~drawing
~driving a car
12. What is your mom not very good at?

~playing with toys
~riding skateboards
~climbing mountains
~getting up and cleaning
13. What does your mom do for a job?

~I do not know what your job is
~work at the church
~homeschool us
~you work at the church kind of
14.What is your mom's favorite food?

~lasagna (that's what I just made)
~macaroni and cheese (what we had for lunch)
~pizza with all the stuff on it (supreme pizza)
~pizza with all the stuff on it (supreme pizza)
15.What makes you proud of your mom?

~are all these questions about you? because you love me and you want to play with me
~hugging you
~you're my mom
~you teach me in school
16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?

~Julie
~my mommy
~a girl on k-arctic (I have no idea what this is. He informed me that it was a cartoon they weren't suppose to watch but there was a girl that had my color hair and looked like me.)
~super woman
17. What do you and your mom do together?

~share
~sit on laps
~we sleep in your bed together, we sit together
~read books, school
18. How are you and your mom the same?

~the same eyes
~your my mom and I'm your son
~we're family
~the same eyes
19. How are you and your mom different?

~our hair is different
~I am a boy and you are a girl
~you're way bigger then me
~you're a girl and I'm boy, you share a bed and I don't
20. How do you know your mom loves you?

~because you really love me, you're my proudest mommy
~cause you're my mom
~because you teach us and you spank us when we do something wrong
~because you let me go out and play with my friends
21. What does your mom like most about your dad?

~dad kisses you
~that he's your husband
~because he kisses you on the lips
~that he's cute
22. Where is your mom's favorite place to go?

~the rec center
~up in the mountains
~Disney World! (I've never been there.)
~the Christian book store (now he knows me!)

Mommy and her Kids

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Happy 14th Anniversary!


Fourteen years ago today, Jeff and I were married. Man that makes me feel old! We met at Manhattan Christian College. I was a freshman coming in and he was an RA in the dorm. My best friend Heather and I came up to school together and moved in on August 17, 1993. That was the first day we met. To keep things short, we spent a lot of time together walking and talking. We 'officially' started dating in October, after Christmas break we knew that God had chosen us for each other. In February we were engaged, Jeff then had a summer on camp team where we didn't really get to see each other the whole summer, we talked on the phone. Then on August 20, 1994 we were married right before the fall semester of school began. That is the very short story of how things began.

We have since been through so much together.
  • 1994 - married and the beginning of life together, as poor college students. The week after we were married we went to White City for a "try-out" weekend. We were hired for a weekend ministry @ $125 a Sunday.
  • 1995 - still adjusting to life as a married couple. Jeff likes to say that our first year of marriage was the roughest, because there were lots of adjustments to be made.
  • 1996 - we both graduated from MCC, Jeff with a bachelors in Bible/Pastoral Ministry w/ a minor in Youth Ministry and me with an Associates Degree in Bible/ Educational Ministry. Jeff became bi-vocational so we could continue to minister in White City.
  • 1997 - more ministry in White City. Jeff even drove bus and I used some of my time to volunteer at the library at the grade school.
  • 1998 - We were pregnant! In June, Jeff's dad, Leon, was killed in a car accident. On October 29th, Preston Layne was born.
  • 1999 - Adjusting to parenthood and "preparing" for Y2K ;o)
  • 2000 - survived Y2K :D became pregnant with #2 and I remember being HUGE
  • 2001 - On January 11, Tanner Riley was born. January 12, both of my grandmothers on their way home from coming to see us, was hit and killed on I-70 by a semi. Day 6 of Tanner's life we went to a double funeral. In July, we said goodbye to our 7 year ministry in White City and moved to Hugoton KS. We bought our first home. On September 11, the trade towers were hit.
  • 2002 - I was pregnant with #3 and on September 19, Landon Cade was born.
  • 2003 - My sister and family moved to Hugoton also. First time to have family near-by. Found out I was pregnant with #4 and surprised my family at Christmas.
  • 2004 - On July 29, Kaylie Joy was born. Started homeschooling Preston right after Labor Day. The end of September my world was turned upside down because of my Thyroid. This was a HUGE turning point in Jeff and I's marriage.
  • 2005 - Still dealing with the aftermath of my "thyroid". On November 13, Jeff resigned from Hugoton.
  • 2006 - My sis and family moved to Oklahoma (one of the hardest days of my life). Jeff began doing carpentry again. In April we sold our home, in May we moved to Wichita. We then got a chance to live by my younger sister for 6 mos. Lots and lots of growing and healing. In November Jeff was called to New Hope and we moved to Thornton CO.
  • 2007 - We've had the time of our lives! We've seen miracle after miracle at New Hope.
  • 2008 - In May we bought our own home and we are settling in and getting ready for year 15!

We've had our ups and downs but we've gotten stronger and closer. Jeff has the biggest heart and love for me and kids and for those around him. He's a great dad and is very hands-on. I couldn't ask for a better husband. Although I do wonder sometimes what God was thinking because we are so opposite ;o) but I love him anyway! So,

Happy 14th Anniversary to the love of my life!